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When I was a young girl I had a vision of what my husband would be. I am sure that we have all had our own visions of what we wanted in a husband. Unfortunately, many times we have unrealistic expectations of what a husband should be...and maybe even some that "appear" legitimate. The point is we do "expect" something. We tend to want people to live up to what "we" think they should be...and of course they should be as perfect and right as we are! LOL! Even when we do not put ourselves on the perfection pedestal, we do, on many occassions, think that we are l"ess wrong" than the other person. Sadly, that is one of the biggest lies we fall into in our marriages, friendships, and life in general. How does this play out in marriage, you ask? Most wives fall into at least on of the following "Why can't he be..." categories.... - romantic - helpful - a better father - talkative - spiritually fit - polite - less vocal with his bodily functions... Why oh why? I'll tell you why...because all we take the time to do is dwell on the why, what if, when will he, why did I's... We dwell so much on the things we do not like about our husbands, or the areas we wish they would do more of...that we miss all the wonderful, yes, wonderful qualities that they DO have! Take the time to think about all the reasons you have to love your husband...or even just like him for some of us... - Does he provide well for the family? - Does he have a nice smile? - Does he cook good? - Is he handsome? - Is he a hard worker? - Do you get to be at home with your babies? I am sure we can all come up with MANY things that are positve about our husbands...even the most simple things, like he brings the groceries in for you. Write them down. Begin to meditate on them. Keep them with you. Renew your mind (Romans 12:2) with the Truth that God wants you to see in him...not the lies the enemy throws at you. When the enemy does remind you of the negative, pull out your list, and drown the worm out. The Word says in James 5, the prayer of a righteous man is powerful and effective! I HIGHLY encourage you to pray for your husband, yourself, and your marriage all the time. Pray, and Pray, and pray. Oh, and did I mention, PRAY! (2 Chronicles 7:14; Psalm 66:20) Once we do this, we WILL begin to see the victory in our marriages, in our husbands spiritual life, and our own walk! Finally, TRUST the One Who created your husband to complete the good work that He began! Let's Pray; Daddy God, Help me to let go of all my expectations about my husband. Help me to look in the mirror and work on me. Help me to notice the good in my husband befor the bad ever has a chance to come. Help me to see him and love him the way You do. Help me to be the wife that You created me to be...even when my husband is being downright wrong. Help me to remember that I am not better than he is and that there are many areas where I can do better as well. Finally, Lord, I pray that you bless my husband completely and totally. I pray that you bless him with the secret desires of his heart. And, help me to help him. In Jesus Mighty Name, Amen. In Him, Lara ;) Copyright © Lara Velez
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About the Author: Lara Velez is a Child of the King, Wife of Faith, Mother, writer, web publisher, and entrpreneur. You can find more of her work at: wivesoffaith.blogspot.com and momsoffaith.com
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